Are You Bold Enough To Kick Limiting Beliefs To the Curb? Here’s How.
In Part 1 entitled The World Calls Them Limiting Beliefs But You Should Know They Are The Devil’s Lies we did a deep dive into limiting beliefs, where they come from and how they have impacted your life.
You learnt that limiting beliefs are designed to deceive and keep you stuck in a place where you can’t fulfill your potential.
You would have seen their impact in every area of your life- including your personal relationships, work relationships, and even your thoughts on God, dating and marriage.
You would have learnt that limiting beliefs are often formed from various experiences namely:
- in childhood
- in your family
- in work environment
- interacting with others
Basically, they are formed from experiences that the devil uses to introduce LIES that become deep rooted as you age.
HOW THESE LIES MATERIALIZE
These lies which form and shape your BELIEFS about yourself, your life and others move from your subconscious to your conscious awareness when they CREATE or BECOME your THOUGHTS which ultimately creates Your ACTIONS which get you to your end RESULT.
Look at this closely,
Your Beliefs → Your Thoughts → Your Behaviours→ Your Actions → Your Results
Here’s an example:
You move to a new job and you really want to make friends BUT
- When you were little you were told that you were not easy to like so that’s why you didn’t have any friends, that hurt and it seemed to be true (A LIE which has become your BELIEF).
- Therefore, your belief that you are not easy to like makes making friends doubly difficult-you think nobody is going to like me, nobody will want to be friends (your THOUGHTS)
- These thoughts only serve to make, making friends harder and instead of it being a pleasant experience you dread socializing just like you did when you were a child- so making friends become a negative experience which negatively affects your BEHAVIOUR-you withdraw
- Then your actions follow- you stop socializing with these potential friends and instead avoid them as much as possible and they in turn do not pursue you and you never learn if those could have been great friendships. (Your ACTION)
- Which you then BELIEVE confirms that YOU ARE NOT EASY TO LIKE and that’s why you didn’t have any friends (RESULT).
But does it really confirm your belief?
Think about this,What YOU have experienced is your limiting beliefs matching your expectations-you get what you believed. You believe you will never make friends; you expect to be alone. You get that. You may believe that you don’t fit in, you’re inadequate, that you’re hopeless. You never fit in. These beliefs play out and you end up feeling isolated and alone.
Belief: Nobody really likes me
Thought: I don’t fit in
Behaviour: You withdraw
Action: You DON’T return phone calls or texts from potential friends
Result: You FEEL isolated and ALONE
RELATIONSHIPS
If you pursue relationships expecting them to end badly that is often what you get. In other words, limiting beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies but only because you facilitate them and the bad habits that you are caught in because of them.
But, ask yourself:
What role did you play in your relationship ending?
How did you behave?
What beliefs drove you every day?
Be honest.
You can get different results.
Ladies You can flip the switch. You get to decide the LIFE you want. Take your
power back
Yes, you get to
- Debunk
- Dismantle
- Discredit
and - Bury
Any LIMITING BELIEF which has been dictating your actions. Any limiting belief that has not only been running your life but also ruining your life!
You get to say out loud every day limiting beliefs drop dead! Get out of my Head.
Yes, take control of your thoughts. That is where it all starts.
You get to choose every single time:
- What you Believe
- What you Think
- How you Behave
- How you Act
- The Result you want
I know you long for a deeper walk with God! BUT YOU Believe that you DON’T DESERVE IT. You can’t have it. You judge yourself harshly, yes you are a sinner but having said YES to Jesus ensures that you dear sister can have the relationship that you crave with a God who loves you, warts and all. The Bible says God’s goodness leads to repentance so as you see His goodness you can’t help but desire to abandon those habits that you are not too proud of.
So, don’t let your sense of inadequacy keep you bound and afraid and away from a loving relationship with God.
or from a loving relationship with a man. Yep,, the relationship you secretly dream about and wish that you had.
Yes, you can have it!
Because,
EVERY LIE-every limiting belief- CAN BE REPLACED WITH TRUTH.
STRETCH. TAKE A DEEP BREATH.
It’s time to change your negative self-talk.
Hit the RESET button
Take back your life by taking back your mind. Reclaim your confidence.
Here’s the PROCESS:
STEP 1: RECOGNIZE the lies
STEP 2: REFRAME the lies
STEP 3: REPLACE the lies
STEP 4: REPEAT Steps 1-3
STEP 1
HOW TO RECOGNIZE IF YOU’RE LIVING A LIE
Before you start- Grab a book, sheets of paper or the Recognize, Reframe & Replace The Lies With Truth Journal
THINK ABOUT HOW YOUR BEHAVIOUR WOULD CHANGE IF A LIE or LIES WERE ELIMINATED FROM YOUR LIFE.
1. PICK 1 area in your life where you feel challenged; unfulfilled or fearful e.g. Finances, Relationships (intimate/with God/family/friends/coworkers, yourself)
2. You must IDENTIFY/POINT OUT/ACKNOWLEDGE the lie/s (don’t be embarrassed or ashamed, own it)- LIST all the lies that have contributed to the challenge you feel
3. Think about which lies have had the greatest negative impact on your life- List the lies in order of their impact on you
4. Call out each lie out loud- Ask yourself is it true?
5. Where or Who did you learn it from?
6. Is the source valid?
STEP 2
YOU MUST NOW REFRAME THAT LIE/S WITH TRUTH
Having determined that the BELIEF is a LIE reframe and replace it with TRUTH
To reframe means to redescribe from a different angle (from Wiktionary.org)
You get to view the lie from the right perspective-through wise eyes and because of this you get to REFRAME IT.
If you believe that you’re age disqualifies you for love.
SAY: I choose not to believe this lie anymore………… This IS NOT TRUE.
I choose to believe this instead……………… I can fall in love at any age or I can find love at any age; my age does not disqualify me.
Reframe the old beliefs or lies with truth based on your area of challenge
Reframe:
- In line with what God or the Bible says about you
- to improve your life and support your ability to take action to make your life better.
Then go straight to STEP 3
STEP 3
YOU MUST NOW REPLACE THAT LIE WITH TRUTH
Replace the old belief or the former lies with truth based on your area of challenge
Here’s an e.g. You are battling Lies concerning your weight or your looks - because you are at this particular weight you are not beautiful or desirable, or you are not pretty enough to date that kind of guy.
Having determined that these are lies you replace them.
Replace these with what the Bible says- You are fearfully and wonderfully made; GOD made You on PURPOSE. He said YES to your design! To every hair on your head, and to every quirk.
Go read Psalm 139 for yourself but in the meantime here’s an excerpt from verses 13-16 The Message Bible:
Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me
inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I wasmade, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Here’s another example you, are battling lies/beliefs in the area of MONEY ($)-
- there is never enough$;
- you will always be in need of $;
- having $ makes you sinful, that’s why you don’t have any.
Reframe these beliefs based on the truth of God’s promises.
The Bible says in Philippians 4: 19 But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus (King James Version).
also
Deuteronomy 8:18 says it is the Lord who gives us the ability and skill to be able to create wealth.
Note that because you are burying the old limiting beliefs and you have now become FEARLESS and are experiencing changes in every area of your life. Know this, these NEW EXPERIENCES will bring up new limiting beliefs-BURY them immediately with the PROCESS that you learnt here. Live intentionally. Live purposefully.
DAILY CHECKUP
1. Daily Checkup
a. BE ALERT-Check yourself daily- are you living out of that new belief?
2. Expect Change
a. you will experience change in the days ahead as you remain diligent in creating this new habit of
reframing and replacing old beliefs with new ones
STEP 4
YOU MUST REPEAT THIS PROCESS-It Is ONGOING
REMEMBER
- Limiting beliefs are lies which hide in the deepest areas of your mind, and their one mission is to distort truth.
- They rob you of your potential and keep you from pursuing the life you want.
- If your beliefs change, the way you act and feel will also change;
- Your life and feelings are a manifestation of your beliefs.
- If your limiting beliefs have REALLY changed, your life will also change- because you will get different results.
“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.”
— Tony Robbins
You no longer have to live your life as a victim of lies you have believed.
You can Recognize, Reframe and Replace lies with the TRUTH from God’s Word.
LIMITING BELIEFS, DROP DEAD…GET OUT OF MY HEAD.
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THE WORLD CALLS THEM LIMITING BELIEFS BUT YOU SHOULD KNOW THEY ARE THE DEVIL’S LIES!
Let’s start with the Truth. Limiting beliefs are just a fancy way of saying the devil’s lies. He is the original liar, he is called the Father of lies. He uses lies and create deceit in the hearts and minds of not just Christians but everyone. Everything he does is based on his desire to lie to you to deceive
you into believing his lies are truths.
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